Whether you have recently gone through a divorce in Florida, or are currently in the middle of finalizing your legal separation, you understand the significant life changes that divorce brings. But remember, you’re not the only one affected! VeryWell Family reports that children of divorced parents are often just as affected by the divorce as their parents, and can be impacted even more seriously because they are not as adequately equipped as adults are to handle the huge life transition. With summer approaching, it’s the perfect time to stop and consider how you can help your kids cope with divorce while also making the most of their school break.
Summer is a time that most kids look forward to all year long! However, your children might be used to associating summer as a time for family vacations or other activities spent together as a family. A recent divorce requires some new expectations which you can help your children manage in a healthy way.
- Give Yourself Permission to Recharge – Remember that you can take care of your children better if you’re consistently taking care of yourself. If children are spending time with your ex, use your alone time to relax and de-stress. Take intentional time for yourself and plan ahead on how to spend that time in a way that re-energizes you. Plan getaways with friends, take up a new hobby, or make yourself a fun bucket list.
- Celebrate Your Child’s Time With Their Other Parent – Make sure that children know you support quality time spent with their other parent and that you want them to have fun. Divorce and Children recommends encouraging children to document their time spent in their other household by gifting them a disposable camera and photo album or a diary.
- Connect Creatively – Does your child custody agreement outline an extended amount of time spent away from your child this summer? Be proactive and brainstorm some creative ways to let your child know that you’re thinking of them during this time apart. Skype, FaceTime, and texting are great, but snail mail and care packages are also a fun and meaningful way to connect with your kids this summer and might also encourage them to develop their letter-writing skills!
- Manage Your Anxiety – Divorce and Children points out that kids are extremely sensitive to their parents’ stress. Do your best not to let your own anxiety about the new transition overshadow their excitement about spending time with their other parent. Get help from a therapist or trusted friends instead of burdening your children with your own anxiety that stems from the recent changes or wounds from your past marriage.
Divorce doesn’t mean you stop being a family, but it does mean that you have to be intentional about caring for yourself and your children as all of you get used to the new way of life. Use this summer to make healthy decisions for yourself and your children as you face these new life changes together.
Are you going through a divorce or custody battle in Naples, FL? Michael M. Raheb P.A. is here to help you achieve the best for yourself and your children. If you have questions or concerns about your divorce or custody agreement, contact Michael M. Raheb by calling 239-226-0888 or by sending us a message online.
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